Confrontation vs Evasion

I had a few thoughts over whether confronting an issue is better or should one just let nature takes it cause? Being in a competitive world nowadays, we meet different people from different background in our daily life. Thus, we can't escape from these challenging contention.

No doubt confrontation can be extremely uncomfortable; especially if the person tends to become anxious. Of course, confrontation can mean different things to different people. It may mean a disapproving look, a raised voice, or escalation to the point of yelling face to face. So, these could be the reasons that only a minority group of people has the guts to step forward to talk things out. Confrontation can become intimidating, but it does not involve a violation of human rights for dignity. Perceiving the difference is meant to help one to de-escalate the fear attached.

On the other hand, majority of the people, especially Asians will choose to avoid from matters. This is statistically proven in a research. Asians are not open enough when it comes to dealing with issues that had occurred, they tend to stay in the shadow, dare not utter a single word, even they are the victim. This is not a healthy practice as one will always be at the losing end & things will not get sorted out. Both parties will keep holding on to the thorns, pricking each other, till either party take the initiative to remove them. Yes, though it will take time to heal the wound, it is better than letting the thorns residing inside you.

Below are some tips & warning when you are dealing with confrontation:

• Do not mind read, do not try & guess the other person's motive. Assertively asking for clarification is your best approach
• Confrontation is appropriate when dealing with inappropriate behaviour
• Refrain confrontation and think of it as a negotiation
• Exerting control over another human being is beyond the scope of confrontational behaviour
• Learn to comfortably handle confrontation without avoidance may increase your level of credibility
  

So, which type are you? Are you the mighty brave-heart who sees no fear in approaching a person or are you the runaway bride who is always avoiding reality? Confront or not? The decision is yours!