The difference between......

What's the difference between "To love a person for who he is" and "To love a person for what he is"? I was asked this question by a friend and it took me some time to answer. I was wondering would one actually thought of these when he or she is in love?

Well in actual fact, to love a person for who he is means - you fall in love with his character. You are attracted to his attitude, personality and most of all his true self. He is the person you can foresee to spend the rest of your life with, you look forward to spending quality moments together, his temper sweetens your relationship and ultimately his presence is an assurance to you. According to surveys, a couple will have a lasting relationship if both parties are into each other for who they really are.

In contrast to that, to love a person for what he is means - you love (or rather like?) your partner for what he has in life. You are basically attracted to the luxurious items surrounding him. For instance, you choose to be with your partner because he is well to do, drives a luxurious car, owns a decent house or just because he always uses designer goods. These are the non-living things that make you think that you are in love with him, but in actual fact, you are attracted to the external factors. Obviously, this relationship does not last. Even if one party is sincere and truthful to the other, the bond between both will not be strong.

I was skeptical initially, thinking true love only happens in romance movies. After reading several articles, I have been convinced that there are individuals out there who really fall for a person's personality.

It probably takes time for you to come across such individual, hold on to faith - if the special someone is meant to be with you, he'll cross your path in life. You might want to re-evaluate your relationship with your partner if he appreciates your penthouse but complains about your snoring! =)

~Find a partner who completes you!~

等待还是往前走？

如果有一天你发现这3年来 你很珍惜的一段感情突然变淡了，你会选择等待及挽回这段感情还是释放往前走呢？心情忐忑不安，当事人不知该如何。朋友甲说：“继续等待及忍耐一会儿，情况会好转的！别放弃!" 听了这一番话，当事人情绪也定了。一致下定决心继续等待，盼望一切会恢复自然。
过了一阵子 朋友乙说：“就算你能够挽回这段情，你能够保证它会不变吗？它可能只是短暂的恢复吧了！你还是放弃吧！” 现在该怎么办？朋友乙也可能说得对。就是因为这对话把当事人拉回犹豫不决的情况里。就在这个时候 当事人遇见了朋友丙 他诉说了一个真人真事给当事人听。故事如下。。。

在某一个火车站的候车室，时常坐着一位打扮整齐的中年妇女。她手里抱着一个老式皮箱 经常到处张望 似乎在期待什么。第一次见到妇人是婉婉高中的时候 每天放学乘搭火车到市区补习 夜晚10时回到火车站 妇人总是准时地坐在候车室的木椅上，一副等待着的姿势 不安的眼神 端整的打扮 好像在等待着某一个约好的人。时间一久 婉婉注意到妇人显得孤寂，有一天婉婉比平时迟到达火车站 她看见那位妇人走到候车室的黑板前用粉笔写着

[杰：等你没等到 我先走了！ 玲 留]

这是婉婉才知道 原来在候车室的留言是出自那位妇人。火车站老伯告诉婉婉 那位妇人已经在候车室坐了二十几年了 有人说她疯了 有人说看见她打开皮箱 里面装着的是少女时代的衣服。大部分的人都说 在二十几年前那个夜晚，玲和她的杰约好在车站碰面 要私奔到某一个地方 可是叫杰的那个男人却缺席了。
有一天婉婉回家的时候 不再看到玲的影子 问了车站许多人但是不晓得为什么仁然不见玲。这风雨无阻的妇人那天没有来 第二天凌晨 玲残缺的身体被火车站老伯发现在铁道上 那皮箱滚到很远的地方。候车室的黑板上有她的字迹，只改了几个字

[杰：等你三十年 我先走了！ 玲 留]

听完这凄凉的故事, 当事人心情沉重 替玲感到悲伤。当事人也思考了一阵子她不想堕落与玲的悲剧 也不想痴痴的等待了！这下当事人狠狠地告诉自己她决定大步的跨过这一段没结果的感情 从此再也不回头 只往美好前进。在此我也深深的祝福当事人能够轻易的忘掉一切不愉快的事 相信明天一定会更好的! 加油吧朋友！=)

The Ugly Truth

Catch this new romantic comedy - The Ugly Truth, if you want to laugh out loud at a guy's dating rules. Both main characters are hot and sexy! Katherine Heigl (Abby) does have a great body and her curves can sweep the guys off the ground. The gorgeous blond lass, seen as Dr. Isobel Stevens in Golden Globe-winning series Grey's Anatomy, managed to reveal not only her beauty but also the intellectual personality of hers in the movie.

As for Gerard Butler (Mike), the muscular, dark brown & hot Scottish makes the women drool at his every moves. The good looking 6'2" lad with grey-green eyes was humorous and sensuous in the movie. Though at certain scene, the fine lines has laid bare his age, he is still hunky and symmetrical.
Alright, my confession - for a while I was building castle in the air, fantasizing I could wake up one morning next to him! =p

I actually remembered The Ugly Truth Rules (which is a guy's view) from the movie:

Rule #1 - Never criticize a guy
Rule #2 - Laugh at whatever a guy says, even it is not funny
Rule #3 - Men are very visual (Duh! Who doesn't know this?)
Rule #4 - Never talk about your problems to a guy

I somehow find there is some truth to the above rules. These manly rules get Abby her perfect guy but the relationship doomed because she's been acting and not being her true self.

Share with you some memorable quotes for The Ugly Truth:

Abby: "My cat stepped on the remote."
Mike: "Well, be sure to thank your pussy for me."

Mike: "It's not for you, it's for your bean."

I would recommend this movie for those who needs a good laugh. Have fun and enjoy the great romantic comedy.
Remember, your great love is out there, you just need the right rules! =)